Aunque toda relación entre un hombre y una mujer suele iniciarse con una oleada de pasión y entrega mutuas, en ocasiones, de una manera gradual, va apareciendo el lado oscuro, agresivo e inquietante de él: se trata del misógino, un hombre que, aun amando a su compañera, se comporta con ella como si la odiara; a veces el agravio es muy sutil, pero otras la critica abiertamente, la humilla, la responsabiliza de todo lo que va mal... Y, sin embargo, ella acepta sumisa todos los abusos.Mediante una serie de casos prácticos, este clásico de la autoayuda muestra a todas las mujeres cómo romper el círculo vicioso del maltrato psicológico, recuperando el respeto y la confianza en sí mismas y aprendiendo a amar a hombres que las amen de verdad.
Por la autora del bestseller Cuando el amor es odio"Mentir es un arma segura para demoler la autoestima y destruir relaciones. Esta utilísima guía nos muestra cómo detectar las mentiras en aquellos que amamos para luego confrontarlos, y trabajar para superar la traición de modo que podamos renacer más fuertes y sabias que nunca." Ellen McGrath¿Alguna vez te ha mentido aquel que amas?En este libro, directo y práctico, Susan Forward nos ofrece un perfil de la amplia gama de mentirosos que existen, nos enseña a manejar las mentiras de los hombres -desde las inofensivas hasta las más destructivas- y nos provee con estrategias prácticas para detenerlos antes de que arruinen nuestra relación y, sobre todo, nuestra vida.Una vez que descubrimos la verdad sobre aquel a quien amamos y sus mentiras ¿qué hacemos? Forward comparte con nosotras métodos prácticos y probados para sanar las heridas producidas por la decepción, la mentira y la traición. En este libro, la autora ofrece todas las técnicas tanto conductuales como de comunicación que necesitamos para lidiar con las mentiras de la pareja, diciéndonos exactamente qué decir, cuándo y cómo responder a sus reacciones y cómo exponer nuestras condiciones para seguir adelante con la relación. Valiéndose de la lucidez y la calidez que la caracterizan, Susan Forward nos ayuda a decidir si nuestra relación aún tiene arreglo y nos muestra cómo superar la duda y el arrepentimiento cuando nos damos cuenta de que no lo tiene. Ya sea que nos quedemos o nos vayamos, lo más importante es que podemos aprender a confiar y a amar nuevamente.
Is this the way love is supposed to feel? * Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave? * Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy? * Is he extremely jealous and possessive? * Does he switch from charm to anger without warning? * Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments? * Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you? * Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship? * Do you find yourself "walking on eggs" and apologizing all the time? If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist -- a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you. In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men and women trapped in these negative relationships to help you understand your man's destructive pattern and the part you play in it. She shows how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man.BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Susan Forward's Toxic Parents.
Bestselling author Susan Forward looks at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters and provides effective techniques for overcoming that painful legacy. Over the course of thirty-five years as a therapist, Susan Forward has worked with a large number of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect, and other forms of abuse, women raised by mothers who can't love are plagued by anxiety, depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence, and difficulties with trust. But as Forward explains in Mothers Who Can't Love, it is possible to heal the mother wound and find help and validation. The many different kinds of unloving mothers--the narcissistic mother, the competitive mother, the overly enmeshed mother, the control freak, mothers who need mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse--are all described in these pages. They each bring unique issues to the mother-daughter dynamic and need to be understood in order for healing to begin. Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can't Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of their childhoods and act in their own best interests. Riveting and compassionate, this landmark book will give daughters the emotional support and tools they need to reclaim their confidence and self-respect so that the emotional destructiveness they grew up with does not constitute a legacy for future generations.
Susan Forward's practical and powerful book will help couples cope with terrible and toxic in-laws. Toxic in-laws are in-laws who create genuine chaos through various assaults--aggressive or subtle--on you and your marriage. Toxic-in laws come in a wide variety of guises, " The Critics.; ", who tell you what you're doing wrong, "The Controllers.;", who try to run you and your partner's life, " The Engulfers.;", who make incessant demands on your time, " The Masters of Chaos.;", who drain you and your partner with their problems, and, " The Rejecters.;", who let you know they don't want you as part of their family. Susan Forward draws on real-life voices and stories of both women and men struggling to free themselves from the frustrating, hurtful and infuriating relationships with their toxic in-laws. Dr. Forward offers you highly effective communication and behavioral techniques for getting through to partners who won't or can't stand up to their parents. Next, she lays out accessible and practical ways to reclaim you marriage from your in-laws. She shows you what to say, what to do and what limits to set. If you follow these strategies, you may not turn toxic in-laws into the in-laws of your dreams, but you will find some peace in your relationship with them.
BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Dr. Susan Forward's Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them.When you were a child...Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless?Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you?Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems?Were you frightened of your parents?Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret?Now that you are an adult...Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child?Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents?Do your parents control you with threats or guilt?Do they manipulate you with money?Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents?In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.
In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.