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When Your Father Dies: How a Man Deals with the Loss of His Father
by Dave Veerman Bruce BartonExperiencing the death of a parent is a traumatic experience for anyone. For men, though, the death of a father is uniquely and deeply traumatic. Whether or not a father and son are close in life, they are undeniably connected-and this is acutely evident to a man when his father dies. At that moment, a man realizes how much of his identity has been defined by his father. The powerful emotions and life adjustments that follow Dad's passing catch most men completely off guard. Authors Dave Veerman and Bruce Barton both experienced the life-altering deaths of their own fathers, and in When Your Father Dies they share not only their experiences but also the experience of more than sixty men, including Max Lucado, Chuck Colson, Hank Hannegraaff, and Bill Hybels. They also include insight and practical advice from professional counselors to prepare readers for the emotional struggles that accompany the death of a father. Veerman and Barton's biblical perspective on grief and long-term life adjustments, along with important sidebars and probing discussion questions, will help men understand their emotions, heal other damaged relationships, and even change the way they parent their own children. Many women will want to read the book so that they can understand the complex emotions and changes the men they care about are going through.
When Your Heart Says Go: My Year of Traveling Beyond Loss and Loneliness
by Judy ReevesWhat sort of mad longing besets a woman—nearing fifty and recently widowed—to sell everything she owns, buy an around-the-world airline ticket, pack a single suitcase, and set off alone on a year-long journey without a plan or agenda? When Your Heart Says Go answers that question. Set in 1990–&’91, Judy&’s story takes readers from San Diego through eleven European countries, the then-Soviet Union, and finally India, during the lead-up to the first Gulf War. Explorations of foreign locales and interactions with strangers and acquaintances who become a lifeline to friendship are interspersed with occasional flashbacks to Judy&’s life with her beloved husband, Tom, as well as his illness and death. Descriptions of sites historic and current serve as both daily life and background for Judy&’s struggle to find her way as a sober, single, independent woman in the vast world as it edges toward the collapse of the Soviet Union and war in the Middle East. The outer journey serves as a container for the inner; the more Judy experiences of the world, the more she learns about herself—and the closer she gets to realizing her lifelong dream of being a writer.
When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide for Adult Children
by Daniel S. LobelCaring for yourself and your relationship with your mom who has BPD.Growing up with a mom who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is difficult—but it's still possible to have a functioning adult relationship with her. When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder provides you with crucial information for understanding the patterns behind her Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as the tools you need to start your own recovery process.Find ways to reconcile your complicated thoughts and feelings with straightforward and easy-to-use techniques. You'll also discover a number of sample dialogues that give you blueprints for safe and secure interactions in a variety of situations.When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder includes:You, your mother, and Borderline Personality Disorder—Learn why your mother behaves the way she does and how to maintain a relationship with her—without getting hurt.The help you need—Start healing with essential self-care strategies that will help you rebuild your self-esteem, cope with anxiety, protect your family, and more.Research-based tools—Get proven advice based on the most up-to-date approaches for managing a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder.Get the help you need moving forward with the compassionate guidance of When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder.
When Your Partner Has Bipolar Disorder: Helping You and Your Partner Build a Balanced and Healthy Relationship
by William O. SeligLearn how to navigate your partner's bipolar disorder and strengthen your relationshipUtilizing the most up-to-date information available on treatment and management, this book provides you with a variety of written and interactive exercises and strategies that both you and your partner can use to foster a healthier and more balanced relationship.When Your Partner Has Bipolar Disorder includes:Modern approaches—Discover resources derived from current understandings of bipolar disorder as well as information about the bipolar spectrum and its symptoms.Evidence-based exercises—Combine journaling, mindfulness exercises, and conversation prompts to work with your partner and take care of yourself.Real-life examples—Draw support from real-life examples of others facing the challenges of living with a partner suffering from bipolar disorder.When Your Partner Has Bipolar Disorder will help you support your partner and yourself through both good and tough times.
When Your World Makes No Sense: Four Critical Decisions That Can Bring Hope And Direction Into...
by Henry CloudOffers advice to those who feel alone and isolated, and discusses our relationship to God, our independence from others, the conflict between good and evil, and the acceptance of adult responsibilities
When a Child Dies: A Hopeful Healing Guide for Surviving the Loss of a Child
by Claire AagaardA caring and compassionate grief book for bereaved parents who have lost a child."This book is a lovely blend of the author's personal journey with the death of her son and supportive information that can help parents see light amidst the dark."—Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D, CT, author, educator, and grief counselorDiscover a beacon of hope and strength in the face of unimaginable loss. This compassionate and transformative guide offers solace to grieving parents and caregivers as they navigate the harrowing journey of healing after losing a child.Inside these pages, readers will find:Compassionate Guidance: Find solace in advice from a professional grief counselor, offering genuine empathy and understanding to help you navigate the complexities of grief.Transformative Healing: Discover proven strategies and coping techniques to support your emotional resilience and begin your journey toward healing.Empowerment and Support: Gain strength from empowering insights and heartfelt support to help you face each day with renewed hope and courage.Inspiring Stories: Draw hope from the powerful real-life stories of parents, offering inspiration for your own healing process.Parental Self-Care: Learn the importance of self-care in the grieving process and how to practice it effectively during these challenging times.Compassionate Community: Find a sense of belonging in this guide's empathetic approach, realizing you're not alone in your grief.When a Child Dies is more than just a book; it is a compassionate community, a refuge for grieving hearts, and a testament to the power of hope and healing. Embrace this hopeful guide and embark on a transformative journey toward a new chapter of life, honoring the precious memory of your beloved son or daughter while nurturing your own well-being."It will not always hurt as much as it does right now. Go slowly, be gentle and forgiving, and choose your path forward with loving intention."—Claire Aagaard
When a Child Has Been Abused: Towards Psychoanalytic Understanding and Therapy (Psychoanalysis and Women Series)
by Frances Thomson-Salo Laura Tognoli PasqualiThis important and wide-ranging book explores the world of a child or young person who has been abused or neglected. It seeks to understand their world, to ease the pain from which they suffer, and to heal the wounds that the abuse has left. Examining how abuse always takes place in the context of relationships, and involves a misuse of power that causes a traumatic overwhelming of the child or adolescent, abuse also evokes strong countertransference. This affects interventions, particularly when clinicians struggle with feelings of which they may feel ashamed. A difficulty in coming to terms with and addressing child abuse relates to unconscious factors which, by freezing the emotional area surrounding the abuse (or by blinding the area of personality), makes some thoughts unthinkable. Considering traditional and novel ways of helping children who feel they have been maltreated, the book offers suggestions for individual treatment as well as describing the successful work carried out with child refugees. It also offers a glimpse into what child psychoanalysts interpret and do with children who feel a parent hates them.
When a Child Has Been Murdered: Ways You Can Help the Grieving Parents (Death, Value and Meaning Series)
by Bonnie Hunt Conrad"When a Child Has Been Murdered: Ways You Can Help the Grieving Parents" is a concise, easy- to-read guide that begins with a general discussion of the types of grief that result from death and non-death losses. Then, using statements made by parents whose children were murdered, it discusses the specifics of murdered-child grief including: the complex emotions felt by the grieving parents, how the necessity of interacting with the criminal justice system can alter and enhance these emotions, short- and long-term methods these parents employ to work through the grieving process and to reconstruct their shattered lives, and how anyone who comes in contact with the parents can help them survive their grief.
When a Friend Needs a Friend
by RoozeboosGood friends stick together in fun times and hard times.When a Friend Needs a Friend is a gift for friends of all ages."A wonderful story for children and adults that reminds us about the importance of feeling all of your feelings." - Amanda Mintzer, Psy.D, Child Mind Institute"The friendship between Oskar and Aya feels authentic, and the illustrations evoke ease and harmony." - Tara Sanabria Davila, LCSW Assistant Professor of Social Work, Yale Child Study CenterAya and Oskar love to go on big adventures, build amazing creations, and make up stories together. But when Oskar gets sad, his feelings grow so big he doesn't want to play. And that leaves Aya feeling hurt and confused. How can she help when she doesn't know what Oskar needs?With candor and compassion, this heartfelt story shows that big feelings are a normal part of life - something to be felt rather than fixed - and models how to be an ally when someone you love is hurting.
When a Loved One Has Borderline Personality Disorder: A Compassionate Guide to Building a Healthy and Supportive Relationship
by Daniel S. Lobel PhDSupport yourself and your loved one living with borderline personality disorder Loving someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be complex and overwhelming. This guide provides compassionate strategies and exercises to help you set boundaries, practice self-care, and build a healthier and more supportive relationship. This top choice in borderline personality disorder books helps you to: Understand BPD—Learn more about what BPD is and how it affects your loved one, your relationship, and you personally. Consider their perspective—Explore how your loved one might feel in specific scenarios and how those feelings motivate their behavior. Care for yourself—Acknowledge your emotions, and discover a variety of ways to seek support and make time for yourself. Take action—Discover tips and techniques for communicating effectively with your loved one, as well as writing prompts to help you apply the strategies you learn to your relationship. Pick up this standout among BPD books and get the tools you need to create balance and harmony in your relationship.
When a Loved One Has Dementia: A Comforting Companion For Family And Friends
by Eveline Helmink“An open-hearted and honest look at the reality of caring for someone with this life-changing diagnosis. Eveline generously shares her experiences, insights, and practical tools to cultivate compassion, acceptance, and love, even during the most painful experiences.”—Dr. Nicole LePera, New York Times–bestselling author of How to Do the Work A vital source of solace and compassion for those whose loved one has dementia, rooted in the author’s unflinching experience of caring for her mother Dementia enters life through the back door, slipping in unnoticed. Once it’s there, it can make you feel powerless, angry, and unsure how to move forward. When her mother developed dementia, Eveline Helmink wasn’t prepared. As she learned firsthand, when your loved one is suffering, it takes a toll on you, too. As you navigate finding professional caregivers and adapting to your loved one’s behavioral challenges, this book will help you confront all the complexities of the experience. Identify healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Work through feelings of denial, grief, guilt, shame, and fear. Summon the courage to make decisions in your loved one’s best interest. Live in the present, find laughter, and show love in the face of dementia. When a Loved One Has Dementia weaves together Eveline’s unflinching personal account and her empathetic guidance, allowing you to walk through the endless tunnel and illuminating the path to acceptance, forgiveness, and love.
When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress
by Gabor MateIn this accessible and groundbreaking book -- filled with the moving stories of real people -- medical doctor and bestselling author of Scattered Minds, Gabor Maté, shows that emotion and psychological stress play a powerful role in the onset of chronic illness. Western medicine achieves spectacular triumphs when dealing with acute conditions such as fractured bones or life-threatening infections. It is less successful against ailments not susceptible to the quick ministrations of scalpel, antibiotic or miracle drug. Trained to consider mind and body separately, physicians are often helpless in arresting the advance of most of the chronic diseases, such as breast cancer, rheumatoid arthritis, Crohn's disease, multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, and even Alzheimer's disease. Gabor Maté has found that in all of these chronic conditions, there is a common thread: people afflicted by these diseases have led lives of excessive stress, often invisible to the individuals themselves. From an early age, many of us develop a psychological coping style that keeps us out of touch with the signs of stress. So-called negative emotions, particularly anger, are suppressed. Dr. Maté writes with great conviction that knowledge of how stress and disease are connected is essential to prevent illness in the first place, or to facilitate healing. <p><p> When the Body Says No is an impressive contribution to current research on the physiological connection between life's stresses and emotions and the body systems governing nerves, immune apparatus and hormones. With great compassion and erudition, Gabor Maté demystifies medical science and, as he did in Scattered Minds, invites us all to be our own health advocates.
When the Body Speaks: A British-Italian Dialogue (New Library of Psychoanalysis)
by DonaldRonny Campbell JaffèThis book is based on the work done by a group of British and Italian psychoanalysts who have been meeting twice yearly since 2003 to study clinically the relationship between the mind and the body of their patients. The analytical dyad became the focus of a dialectical movement between body and mind and between subject and object. Containing contributions from a range of distinguished British and Italian analysts, this book covers such key topics as somatic symptoms, the embodied unconscious, bodily expressions of affect, sexuality, violence, self-harm, suicide attempts, hypochondria, hysteria, anorexia and bulimia, and splits and fragmentation associated with the body. The theoretical understanding is inspired by various psychoanalytic theoreticians, including Freud, M. Klein, Winnicott and Bion and their theories on sexuality, infantile sexuality, libido, aggressiveness, death instinct, Oedipus complex and mother–child relationship. Offering new advances in theoretical thinking and practical applications for clinical work, this book will be essential for all psychoanalysts and mental health clinicians interested in understanding serious mental disturbance that is represented in the body.
When the Body Speaks: The Archetypes in the Body
by Mara SidoliWhen the Body Speaks applies Jungian concepts and and theories to infant development to demonstrate how archetypal imagery formed in early life can permanently affect a person's psychology.Drawing from Mara Sidoli's rich clinical observations, the book shows how psychosomatic disturbances originate in the early stages of life through unregulated affects. It links Jung's concepts of the self and the archetypes to the concepts of the primary self as conceptualized by Fordham, as well as incorporating the work of other psychoanalysts such as Bion and Klein. Lucidly written, When the Body Speaks is an important book for professionals and students in the fields of child and adult psychoanalysis and psychotherapy.
When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter
by Judith R. BernsteinA psychologist and bereaved parent offers strategies by which parents can accept and integrate the effects of trauma into their lives.When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter is a poignant and sensitive book that offers bereaved parents the comfort of learning how others have navigated this rutted road. It is the first book to assess the enduring consequences of loss and the first to shed light on the evolution in values, perceptions, and relationships that follow the death of a child. With great honesty and empathy, it acknowledges that no family ever “recovers” from this tragedy, but rather adapts to a life irretrievably altered.Praise for When the Bough Breaks“Quite simply the best book I know of to help bereaved parents—clear, compassionate, and absolutely on target.” —Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People? and How Good Do We Have to Be?“A sensitive and honest description of the overwhelming journey bereaved families endure as they struggle to adjust to their new lives. Not only is this one of the best books I’ve ever read for bereaved families, but it also offers some real insights for those who care about bereaved parents and siblings.” —Diana Cunningham, executive director of The Compassionate Friends
When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter
by Judith R. BernsteinA psychologist and bereaved parent offers strategies by which parents can accept and integrate the effects of trauma into their lives.When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter is a poignant and sensitive book that offers bereaved parents the comfort of learning how others have navigated this rutted road. It is the first book to assess the enduring consequences of loss and the first to shed light on the evolution in values, perceptions, and relationships that follow the death of a child. With great honesty and empathy, it acknowledges that no family ever “recovers” from this tragedy, but rather adapts to a life irretrievably altered.Praise for When the Bough Breaks“Quite simply the best book I know of to help bereaved parents—clear, compassionate, and absolutely on target.” —Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People? and How Good Do We Have to Be?“A sensitive and honest description of the overwhelming journey bereaved families endure as they struggle to adjust to their new lives. Not only is this one of the best books I’ve ever read for bereaved families, but it also offers some real insights for those who care about bereaved parents and siblings.” —Diana Cunningham, executive director of The Compassionate Friends
When the Bubble Bursts: Clinical Perspectives on Midlife Issues
by Eda GoldsteinThere are common midlife events that account for the special narcissistic vulnerabilities of this period of life, and Eda Goldstein ably reviews these events and the theoretical perspectives commonly brought to bear on them. In When the Bubble Bursts, however, Goldstein's special concern is those individuals who come to midlife with heightened narcissistic vulnerabilities that make the navigation of this stage of life more difficult still. In understanding the latter such patients and devising a treatment approach appropriate to their "self" issues, Goldstein adopts a broadly self-psychological frame of reference. It is a matter, she finds again and again, of understanding how current stressors frustrate healthy self needs and trigger narcissistic vulnerabilities. Self-psychologically informed treatment, which, in Goldstein's pragmatic purview, embraces modalities that are, to varying degrees, supportive, psychodynamic, and psychoanalytic, reworks and strengthens self structures in helping patients find new ways of affirming their sense of self. Her substantive case studies, which accompany the reader through all the chapters in her study, draw on personal and supervisory experiences to illustrate crucial foci of the treatment process with a range of midlife patients in psychotherapy. Eda Goldstein presents a study that comprises an admirable blend of theoretical astuteness, clinical wisdom, and personal honesty. Her clinical study of midlife narcissistic pathology is bracketed by her balanced discussion of theoretical perspectives on adult development and her concluding consideration of the countertransference issues elicited by midlife patients in midlife therapists. When the Bubble Bursts is an edifying contribution to the literatures of psychodynamic psychotherapy, self psychology, and adult development.
When the Caregiver Becomes the Patient: A Journey from a Mental Disorder to Recovery and Compassionate Insight
by Harold G Koenig Emil J Authelet Daniel L LangfordExamine a compelling account of a professional caregiver’s inspirational struggle with a mind/body illness and the renewed sense of compassion his recovery provides.This uplifting narrative is the story of a caregiving professional stricken by panic attacks, a wounded healer desperate to be healed. When the Caregiver Becomes the Patient is the candid and compassionate first-hand account of Daniel Langford’s struggle with the anxiety disorder that signals a physical, cognitive, and emotional crisis that paralyzes him, despite his extensive background as a health care professional, social worker, and pastoral minister. His journey from the disorder’s horrifying onset to the understanding and acceptance of its roots, and finally, to an insight that evokes a renewed appreciation for the human spirit is an inspirational guide to healing and recovery.The anecdotal form of When the Caregiver Becomes the Patient lends itself to a personal retelling of Langford’s struggle, detailing his sessions with family physician Dr. David Betat, and colleague and co-author Dr. Emil Authelet as they explore the biopsychosocial and spiritual dimension of Langford’s attacks. Their informal dialogues serve as a model of how a lateral relationship between colleagues can create an environment for healing and recovery that can be passed on to others. The book also critiques and reviews existing literature on panic attacks and anxiety disorders related to the author’s search for understanding.When the Caregiver Becomes the Patient examines: panic attacks--cause, treatment, and recovery a critique of existing literature on panic attacks clinical and spiritual perspectives on anxiety disorders critical elements of the healing process effects on the caregiver’s relationship with his/her client a fresh model for the caregiver/patient relationshipAn essential resource for caregivers, counselors and therapists, educators, physicians, and health care and religious professionals, as well as those searching for an understanding of anxiety disorders, When the Caregiver Becomes the Patient reassures those who receive care that the care giver struggles with life as well. That understanding of the mutuality of pain and recovery creates a connection that helps ease the isolation that often accompanies suffering.
When the Darkness Will Not Lift: Doing What We Can While We Wait for God--and Joy
by John Piper"It is utterly crucial that in our darkness we affirm the wise, strong hand of God to hold us, even when we have no strength to hold him. " -John Piper. Even the most faithful, focused Christians can encounter periods of depression and spiritual darkness when joy seems to stay just out of reach. It can happen because of sin, satanic assault, distressing circumstances, or hereditary and other physical causes. In "When the Darkness Will Not Lift," John Piper aims to give some comfort and guidance to those experiencing spiritual darkness. Readers will gain insight into the physical side of depression and spiritual darkness, what it means to wait on the Lord in a time of darkness, how unconfessed sin can clog our joy, and how to minister to others who are living without light. Piper uses real-life examples and sensitive narrative to show readers abundant reason to hope that God will pull them out of the pit of despair and into the light once again.
When the Garden Isn’t Eden: More Psychodynamic Concepts from Life
by Kerry Malawista Anne Adelman Linda KanefieldStories can explore complicated ideas and bring shared experiences to life. Footage of the Knicks’ upset win in the NBA finals triggers a traumatic memory of family tragedy. A young girl starts bullying her best friend after her big sister goes off to sleepaway camp. An adolescent works through her feelings of anger at her father over her parents’ divorce after discovering his infidelity. A patient’s ugly shoes remind an analyst of her own childhood scars. A daughter recognizes her Holocaust-survivor father’s resilience as she comes to terms with his vulnerability after a life-altering accident. Bringing together these narratives and many more, When the Garden Isn’t Eden reveals how psychoanalysis sheds light on the troubles of everyday life.Through poignant and sometimes painful stories from their personal and professional lives, three practicing psychoanalysts demonstrate the richness of psychodynamic thinking. Each chapter offers an illustrative and powerful personal vignette followed by an analytical reflection that explicates key psychodynamic concepts, showing how these ideas inform and deepen our understanding of what makes us human. Blending storytelling and psychotherapy, When the Garden Isn’t Eden makes psychodynamic theory vivid and accessible to students, teachers, clinicians, and anyone curious about how therapists work and think.
When the Naughty Step Makes Things Worse: Parenting for Children (and Adults) Who Need Something Different
by Dr. Naomi Fisher Eliza FrickerSome children just haven't read the parenting books. The harder you try, the worse it gets.There's a hidden contract at the heart of parenting. It's the idea that if parents just get it right, their children can be made to do what they want. Manuals explain how to make it very clear to your children what you want them to do − and how to respond when they don't cooperate. With the right rewards and consequences in place, parents are meant to ensure that their children stay under control. That's Time Out and the Naughty Step (for the little ones) or grounding and withdrawing screen privileges (for the older ones). If that doesn't work, parents are told to be more consistent. But what happens if your child is even more consistent than you? For every so often, along comes a child who hasn't signed the contract. They don't buy in. When they are put on the Naughty Step, they refuse point blank to stay there. Promises of stickers and rewards get you nowhere at all. Take their iPad away and they say, 'Fine, but I'm still not doing that'. These are the children who rip up the rule book. Their parents are left floundering. The more they try to bring their children under control, the clearer it is that they aren't haven't any of it. The firmer the boundaries, the worse their behaviour becomes. Things can go downhill fast. This down-to-earth, illustrated guide is for parents who need something different. It's for those who are fighting battles where they didn't know battles could be fought. It's for those who suspect that what they are doing isn't helping - but they don't know what else to do. It's for families who need a better way to live and who want their children (and themselves) to thrive.
When the Naughty Step Makes Things Worse: Parenting for Children (and Adults) Who Need Something Different
by Dr. Naomi Fisher Eliza FrickerSome children just haven't read the parenting books. The harder you try, the worse it gets.There's a hidden contract at the heart of parenting. It's the idea that if parents just get it right, their children can be made to do what they want. Manuals explain how to make it very clear to your children what you want them to do − and how to respond when they don't cooperate. With the right rewards and consequences in place, parents are meant to ensure that their children stay under control. That's Time Out and the Naughty Step (for the little ones) or grounding and withdrawing screen privileges (for the older ones). If that doesn't work, parents are told to be more consistent. But what happens if your child is even more consistent than you? For every so often, along comes a child who hasn't signed the contract. They don't buy in. When they are put on the Naughty Step, they refuse point blank to stay there. Promises of stickers and rewards get you nowhere at all. Take their iPad away and they say, 'Fine, but I'm still not doing that'. These are the children who rip up the rule book. Their parents are left floundering. The more they try to bring their children under control, the clearer it is that they aren't haven't any of it. The firmer the boundaries, the worse their behaviour becomes. Things can go downhill fast. This down-to-earth, illustrated guide is for parents who need something different. It's for those who are fighting battles where they didn't know battles could be fought. It's for those who suspect that what they are doing isn't helping - but they don't know what else to do. It's for families who need a better way to live and who want their children (and themselves) to thrive.
When the Naughty Step Makes Things Worse: Parenting for Children (and Adults) Who Need Something Different
by Dr. Naomi Fisher Eliza FrickerSome children just haven't read the parenting books. The harder you try, the worse it gets.There's a hidden contract at the heart of parenting. It's the idea that if parents just get it right, their children can be made to do what they want. Manuals explain how to make it very clear to your children what you want them to do − and how to respond when they don't cooperate. With the right rewards and consequences in place, parents are meant to ensure that their children stay under control. That's Time Out and the Naughty Step (for the little ones) or grounding and withdrawing screen privileges (for the older ones). If that doesn't work, parents are told to be more consistent. But what happens if your child is even more consistent than you? For every so often, along comes a child who hasn't signed the contract. They don't buy in. When they are put on the Naughty Step, they refuse point blank to stay there. Promises of stickers and rewards get you nowhere at all. Take their iPad away and they say, 'Fine, but I'm still not doing that'. These are the children who rip up the rule book. Their parents are left floundering. The more they try to bring their children under control, the clearer it is that they aren't haven't any of it. The firmer the boundaries, the worse their behaviour becomes. Things can go downhill fast. This down-to-earth, illustrated guide is for parents who need something different. It's for those who are fighting battles where they didn't know battles could be fought. It's for those who suspect that what they are doing isn't helping - but they don't know what else to do. It's for families who need a better way to live and who want their children (and themselves) to thrive.
When the Parents Change, Everything Changes: Seismic Shifts in Children’s Behaviour
by Paul Dix'Brilliant' Kate Silverton, author of There's No Such Thing As Naughty'An absolute game-changer' Sarah Turner, aka The Unmumsy Mum'Singularly powerful' Tina Payne Bryson, author of The Whole-Brain ChildThe culture of any home is determined by the parents. If you can remain unflappably calm in the face of every supermarket tantrum and sarcastic eye-roll, order will soon follow.Here, bestselling author Paul Dix reveals how to turn even the most chaotic home into an oasis of calm – by focusing not on your children’s behaviour, but on your own. You will never need to raise your voice again.‘How simple techniques, and a different way of thinking, can change the entire atmosphere at home.’ iNews
When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships
by David RichoIn this book, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships--and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances. When the Past Is Present helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs. Drawing on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, Richo helps readers to: * Understand how the wounds of childhood become exposed in adult relationships--and why this is a gift * Identify and heal the emotional wounds we carry over from the past so that they won't sabotage present-day relationships * Recognize how strong attractions and aversions to people in the present can be signals of own own unfinished business * Use mindfulness to stay in the present moment and cultivate authentic intimacy