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Fear Less: How to envision your future & create a Brave New You
by Lou HamiltonA unique guide to taking control of your imagination, confronting your fears and finding your true purpose.When we lose touch with our imaginations, we can become paralysed by fear, doubt and anxiety. But if we take back control of the imagination, our creativity becomes an amazingly powerful tool for identifying, confronting and controlling our fears. Artist and creative life coach Lou Hamilton guides you through a series of insights and simple creative exercises which gradually build your creative confidence while encouraging you to express your thoughts and ideas, giving you deeper understanding of your fears and your dreams.The book draws upon Hamilton's own experiences, scientific studies of creativity and happiness, conversations with successful artists and business owners, and the wisdom of world-famous innovators like Elon Musk, Steve Jobs and Richard Branson, whose ability to think unconventionally made them billionaires.This is a unique self-help guide offering no-nonsense expert advice and a clear path to confidence, creativity and self-discovery.
Fear Less: How to envision your future & create a Brave New You
by Lou HamiltonA unique guide to taking control of your imagination, confronting your fears and finding your true purpose.When we lose touch with our imaginations, we can become paralysed by fear, doubt and anxiety. But if we take back control of the imagination, our creativity becomes an amazingly powerful tool for identifying, confronting and controlling our fears. Artist and creative life coach Lou Hamilton guides you through a series of insights and simple creative exercises which gradually build your creative confidence while encouraging you to express your thoughts and ideas, giving you deeper understanding of your fears and your dreams.The book draws upon Hamilton's own experiences, scientific studies of creativity and happiness, conversations with successful artists and business owners, and the wisdom of world-famous innovators like Elon Musk, Steve Jobs and Richard Branson, whose ability to think unconventionally made them billionaires.This is a unique self-help guide offering no-nonsense expert advice and a clear path to confidence, creativity and self-discovery.
Fear Less: How to envision your future & create a Brave New You
by Lou HamiltonA unique guide to taking control of your imagination, confronting your fears and finding your true purpose.When we lose touch with our imaginations, we can become paralysed by fear, doubt and anxiety. But if we take back control of the imagination, our creativity becomes an amazingly powerful tool for identifying, confronting and controlling our fears. Artist and creative life coach Lou Hamilton guides you through a series of insights and simple creative exercises which gradually build your creative confidence while encouraging you to express your thoughts and ideas, giving you deeper understanding of your fears and your dreams.The book draws upon Hamilton's own experiences, scientific studies of creativity and happiness, conversations with successful artists and business owners, and the wisdom of world-famous innovators like Elon Musk, Steve Jobs and Richard Branson, whose ability to think unconventionally made them billionaires.This is a unique self-help guide offering no-nonsense expert advice and a clear path to confidence, creativity and self-discovery.Read by Lucy Price-Lewis(p) 2018 Orion Publishing Group
Fear Less: Living Beyond Fear, Anxiety, Anger, and Addiction
by Dean SluyterLess Fear, More Life—a Practical Guide These days there’s so much fear in the air, you can almost taste it—along with all the varieties of anxiety, anger, and addiction that grow out of it. How can you navigate your way through the fear and confusion, and find your way to peace? In Fear Less, acclaimed teacher and award-winning author Dean Sluyter shows how to use simple meditative techniques and subtle tweaks of body, mind, and breath to open your life to deep, relaxed confidence. Drawing on ancient enlightenment teachings as well as contemporary research, he lays out practical, easy-to-follow steps for addressing such issues as:• letting go of compulsive overthinking • loosening the bonds of addiction (including smartphone addiction) • overcoming the fear of death • finding meditative stillness in the thick of activity
Fear No Evil: A Test of Faith, a Courageous Church, and an Unfailing God
by Brady BoydIn the years following the senseless and tragic shooting on the campus of New Life Church in northern Colorado Springs, Colorado, senior pastor Brady Boyd has received countless questions from the faith-filled and faithless alike. As the nation watched the suffering congregation reel from the gunman's rampage and, later, steady their stance once more, the one question on everyone's mind was, "How has New Life weathered such a horrible storm so well?"In Fear No Evil, Boyd answers with eloquence and grace, paving a path toward hope for anyone who is walking through the "valley of the shadow of death" and is tempted to camp out there. This story of tragedy and triumph will release you from life's common traps of doubt and despair.Whether you are a parent who has lost a child, a single mom who feels overwhelmed, a middle-aged man starting over after bankruptcy, a student trying to make sense of life and the world at large, or simply someone who wonders where God is in the midst of your suffering, the considerations and counsel offered here will serve as a lifeline for your soul.
Fear Not Tomorrow, God Is Already There Devotional
by Ruth GrahamOur world is filled with uncertainty, but God's truth can steady us. In these hundred devotionals you will discover that you can: - Rely on His Commitment - Experience His Presence - Know His Comfort - Encounter His Power - Receive His Help - Rest in His Compassion - Hear His Invitation - Embrace His Forgiveness - Realize His Restoration - Enjoy His Affirmation - Grasp His Hope - Anticipate His Plans Dispel your fear and uncertainty for tomorrow with the reassurance that God is already there.
Fear Not Tomorrow, God Is Already There: Trusting Him in Uncertain Times
by Ruth GrahamThe bestselling author of In Every Pew Sits a Broken Heart—and Billy Graham’s daughter—returns with a rousing look at how to spiritually tackle the fears we all face during times of change, uncertainty, and crisis.'Ruth Graham empathizes with readers who feel inadequate, outnumbered, overpowered, overwhelmed, or even beyond hope. As she honestly admits, she’s experienced all these emotions. But in the midst of the rough patches in her life, she experienced the depth of God’s mercy. In Fear Not Tomorrow, God Is Already There, Graham shows the tremendous assurance of discovering that God can truly be trusted as our ultimate caretaker. He does have a plan for all His children, and He provides us with the tools we need to flourish when our world turns upside down.Ruth Graham’s strength as a speaker and writer is found in her vulnerable transparency. Writing not from an ivory tower of theological discourse, but from the battlefields of her own personal struggles, Ruth sheds light on her own life experiences, growing up as a Graham, faltering in difficult challenges, yet always landing in the open arms of a welcoming heavenly father. Drawing on the troubled lives of relatable Bible figures, Fear Not Tomorrow, God Is Already There awakens readers to have the courage to face uncertainties with true confidence in God. This is an essential volume for everyone.
Fear and Other Uninvited Guests: Tackling the Anxiety, Fear, and Shame That Keep Us from Optimal Living and Loving
by Harriet G. LernerWith stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us through the most difficult lessons the universe sends us. We learn- How a man was "cured in a day" of the fear of rejection -- and what we can learn from his story How the author overcame her dread of public speaking when her worst fears were realized How to deal with the fear of not being good enough, and with the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate How to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace How to manage fear and despair when life sends a crash course in illness, vulnerability, and loss How "positive thinking" helps -- and harms How to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified and have internalized the shaming messages of others No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can't avoid them either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope.
Fear of Cancer: A 5-step program to live with uncertainty and fear of recurrence
by Coen VölkerWhen people are faced with cancer, fear is common. After the initial shock of diagnosis and medical treatment, people want to pick up their life again. This is not always easy. Fear of cancer recurrence and fear of cancer progression can have a strong impact on life, even when there is a good medical prognosis. It is understood that worry and anxiety is normal, but not many people know what you can do about it. In this book you will find a 5-step program that will guide you. You will be learning to work with uncertainty and fear and develop new ways to cope with stress. "Coen Völker offers us a book of great value for all people with cancer. He gives us a map of how we can face our fears." - Hiske van Ravesteijn, MD PhD, psychiatrist and mindfulness trainer "In his book, Coen Völker shows how engaged he is to guide and support people with cancer throughout difficult and fearful times. It is filled with lots of practical examples, metaphors, inspirational quotes and a clear-cut program that helps people with cancer and caregivers to deal with fears that are inherently connected with the uncertainty that this disease brings along. I recommend this book to all people with cancer who struggle with fear and anxiety but also to caregivers who want to guide people with cancer in how to deal with uncertain times". - Nathalie Cardinaels, Clinical Psychologist, Cognitive Behaviour Therapist, mindfulness & heartfulness trainer and author on topics surrounding cancer.
Fear of Flying Solo: An Empowering Guide to Recovery from Divorce
by Marsha VaughnA unique guide to moving on from divorce that &“brings light to an often dark path with humor, compassion, and just the right amount of guidance&” (Kristina Hallett, PhD, author of Own Best Friend). You bought the whole &“&’til death do us part&” thing. Now you find yourself newly—and shockingly—divorced. Perhaps you&’re feeling alone or unlovable. Perhaps being single again is overwhelming and scary. If you&’re freaked out about ever getting your life back together; or if you&’re asking yourself &“Where do I start?&”—the answers start here, in Fear of Flying Solo. In Fear of Flying Solo, licensed clinical social worker Marsha Vaughn teaches those going through divorce how to manage the transition and face all the challenges that come with it. She guides them through asking for support, what to do (or not do) about sex and dating, how to begin anew, and what practices will carry them forward into their new life. If you are caught in the divorce transition and don&’t want to do it alone, Fear of Flying Solo is there for you every step of the way.
Fear of Flying Workbook: Overcome Your Anticipatory Anxiety and Develop Skills for Flying with Confidence
by David CarbonellConquer your fear of flying with step-by-step instructions leading you through proven techniques to travel with ease.You’ve tried to face your fear of flying, but the harder you try to control it, the worse it gets. This book teaches how to work constructively with your brain so you can address your anxiety in different ways that truly help you let go of the fear.Packed with hands-on exercises, this book helps you better understand both the anticipatory anxiety prior to a flight as well as the fear experienced on board—and provides the tools needed to successfully fill the role of passenger, including:• Questionnaires and fill-in-the-blanks• Pre-flight checklists and practice flight itinerary• In-flight panic journal and symptom graphs• Symptom and response inventories• Breathing and meditation exercisesDrawing from exposure therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy, the methods in this book will help you:• Understand how you became afraid• Discard safety objects and behaviors• Identify signal fears and false alarms• Use the AWARE steps onboard the plane• Recognize and respond to symptoms• Restore your ability to fly and travel
Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice
by Patrick J. McGinnisWhat are you really missing out on?You're home on a Friday night, scrolling through Instagram, ready to go to bed.You see pictures on your timeline of a party you were invited to, but didn't go to. You were confident when you said no, but now you can't stop thinking about it, and you start feeling worse.You have FOMO, or, Fear of Missing Out.Coined in a Harvard Business School article, FOMO has become a global term to describe the decimating anxiety when thinking other people are having better, more fulfilling, experiences than you are. It's a natural, biological response, but that doesn't make it feel any better. Amplified by the rise of social media, #FOMO has become a cultural crisis—so what's the cure?Patrick McGinnis, creator of the term FOMO, has been thinking about it for seventeen years—and he has a solution: decision-making. Learning to weigh the costs and benefits of your choices, prioritizing your decisions, and listening to your gut are central to silencing FOMO and its lesser-known cousin, FOBO: Fear of a Better Option. After all, don't you want to feel comfortable and confident in your decisions?Written with self-evaluations throughout the book, Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice helps you ascertain and eliminate the parts of your life that are causing more anxiety than happiness.So give this a read, and then go to that party, start that new book, create a new goal—or don't. Make that decision, and be confident in it: it's the first of many of its kind.
Fear to Freedom: What If You Did Not Have to Be So Afraid?
by Rosemary TribleDoes fear hold you back from living with freedom and confidence? Does anxiety rob your joy? Rosemary Trible was a successful young woman, a television talk-show host with a husband on his way to becoming a U. S. Congressman, when she was savagely raped at gunpoint. Even though she recovered physically she found that her attacker had not only brutally violated her, he had stolen her joy and her ability to live without terror and fear. Her book deals with sexual assault, terror, forgiveness and healing. It's about big dreams, the death of dreams and becoming bold enough to dream again and make a difference in the world for good. It's about growing out of cultural boxes, moving into racial reconciliation and building friendships that only God could make possible.
Fear, Illustrated: Transforming What Scares Us
by Julie M. ElmanThe Fear Project is a visually stunning, light-hearted, and compelling visual exploration of the fears people confront in their daily lives. For many years artist Julie Elman has collected common and not-so-common fears people have shared with her. Elman transforms the fears from words into multi-media collages full of color and intensity. The fears include death, failure, losing a child, losing one's voice, losing one's mind, centipedes in the shower, needles, cancer, speaking honestly with one's spouse, seaweed, getting arrested at Disney World, biscuits and clusters of small holes. The resulting work presents a wide range of emotions while subtly endorsing the spirit of confronting, releasing, and moving on from fears. "I have learned that 'Onward! ' is a word with a lot of power behind it, " writes Elman. When presented with these tangible interpretations of our deep fears, we will often feel less burdened by them. Fear is a universal emotion; this is an inviting, visually arresting, and unusually light-hearted treatment. Those looking for an antidote to the news or a follow-up to Humans of New York will appreciate Elman's quirky, magnetic, uplifting images.
Fear-Less: The Art of Using Your Anxiety to Your Advantage
by Dr. Kate Dow&“Kate Dow is a master who walks her talk, who will guide you in transforming anxiety and being empowered&” (Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements). So many women and female entrepreneurs struggle with anxiety that is stopping them from moving forward in their personal growth, business, and sense of purpose. In Fear-Less, anxiety expert and coach Dr. Kate Dow offers proven methods for women to become adept at overcoming their anxiety and rewiring their brain. With compelling teachings, stories, and practices, she gently guides women back into relationship with their inner wisdom, abilities, and power. Fear-Less includes Dr. Kate Dow&’s narrative, as well as many client case stories of women&’s incredible outcomes. Written specifically for women from a unique and powerful perspective, Fear-Less guides readers through transformation with its practical, heart-based, and potent methods. If anxiety is getting in the way of your success—learn how to fear less.
Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm
by Thich Nhat HanhWithout fear, we are able to see more clearly our connections to others. Without fear, we have more room for understanding and compassion. Without fear, we are truly free.<P><P>Most of us live in a constant state of fear--of our past, of illness and aging and death, and of losing the things we treasure most. But it doesn't have to be this way, promises Zen master and Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh.Drawing on a lifetime of mindfulness in action, Thich Nhat Hanh shows us how to use the practice of living in the present to acknowledge and embrace our fears, recognize their origins, and render them powerless. The world-renowned Zen teacher guides us through practical exercises for transforming fear into clarity. The worries of the past and the anxiety of the future disappear as we discover the power of the present moment. Not only are we are able to handle challenging emotions as they arise, but we can summon feelings of well-being and contentment, no matter what the unknown may bring.Rooted in the moment, we have the capacity to restore balance and happiness and be present with what is beautiful and affirming inside us and around us, every day.
Fearful to Fabulous: Unlock Your Power, Move On, & Thrive After Midlife Divorce
by Fiona EckersleyFearful to Fabulous helps divorced women push through the challenges presented by their midlife divorce and help them find their inner “fabulosity!”. Fiona Eckersley went through divorce at age forty-five with four kids in tow, so she knows first-hand what it’s like to face all these very real fears. Now, she wants to share what she has learned from her own experiences and from those of the women she has coached. Fearful to Fabulous provides a clear pathway for divorced women to get to a place where they feel financially stable and finally in control of their life. In Fearful to Fabulous, women learn to:Take the first steps to getting a handle on their finances...even if they would rather avoid that subjectManage conflict with their ex so that they can focus on the future Recover their confidence and overcome the new challenges they face as a single woman Uncover their passions and use them to thrive in their new life Understand how to emerge with new hope
Fearfully and Wonderfully Made
by Philip Yancey Paul BrandMysterious, intricate, pulsing with energy... The human body is an endlessly fascinating repository of secrets. The miracle of the skin, the strength and structure of the bones, the dynamic balance of the muscles . . .your physical being is knit according to a pattern of incredible purpose. In Fearfully and Wonderfully Made, renowned surgeon Dr. Paul Brand and best-selling writer Philip Yancey explore the human body. Join them in a remarkable journey through inner space -- a spellbinding world of cells, systems, and chemistry that bears the impress of a still deeper, unseen reality. This Gold medallion Award-winning book uncovers eternal statements that God has made in the very structure of our bodies, presenting captivating insights into the Body of Christ.
Fearing God: How the Fear of God and Our Love for God Create a Trust in God
by Nathan CarlsonDiscover the power of one of God’s greatest blessings in this enlightening and empowering read.Don’t be afraid of God, fear him. The fear of the Lord is a wonderful gift from God for through it Christians find godly wisdom and so much more. It also keeps them from sin and all of sin’s devastation, provides contentment and rest, protection and security, and through it God’s blessings are bestowed. It is a prerequisite to discipleship, instills in Christians godly courage, and was a common trait of all heroes of their faith. Fearing God teaches readers how the fear of the Lord is God’s gracious gift. Yes, the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, but it is so much more . . . it also gives people rest and contentment, God’s blessing, provision, and protection. Rediscover this timeless truth and learn what it means to have courageous fear.Praise for Fearing God“All Christians, and especially pastors, will benefit greatly by the wisdom and insight contained in Fearing God.” —Rev. Dr. Donald G. Miles, senior pastor emeritus, St. John’s Evangelical Lutheran Church, Denver, CO
Fearless
by Robb ArmstrongRobb Armstrong is one of the lucky ones. One of a handful of African-American artists to have a comic strip nationally syndicated in more than 300 publications, he gets to draw for a living. He works at home, so he can spend more time with his wife and two kids. He travels around the country, teaching drawing and sharing stories about his life with young people. He’s even met his share of famous people, including his idol, Charles Schulz. But his life wasn’t always so charmed. Born and raised in a rough neighborhood in West Philadelphia, Robb was one of five fatherless kids living in a cramped apartment where the electric bill didn’t always get paid. When he was six, his older brother was killed in a gruesome subway accident. Soon after, his remaining brother was severely beaten by the police for being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Then, his mother died of cancer. How did he get through all of these tragedies to the happy life? By drawing funnies. Life is not so different from the comics—the challenges, tragedies, and triumphs. Comics poke fun at our everyday routines and our universal motivations. They show us a lot about ourselves and the people around us. So as a cartoonist, Robb Armstrong has drawn a few lessons from life that he shares in this moving memoir. Weaving together his personal stories with simple drawing tutorials and original illustrations, Fearless is both a compelling read and an inspirational lesson on how to live well, through the good times and the bad.
Fearless Authenticity: Lead Better, Sell More & Speak Sensationally
by Jeanne SparrowWhat is the secret to success? Expressing your unique, individual value with fearless authenticity. How we communicate—the words we say and how we say them—has the profound power to change lives, form connections, and create communities. But many of us struggle to translate our ideas, values, and dreams into words. In Fearless Authenticity: Lead Better, Sell More, and Speak Sensationally, speaker, TV personality, and radio host Jeanne Sparrow provides a roadmap to unlock your unique value, gain the courage and confidence to connect authentically and fearlessly with your audience. The process begins with the mantra: Be Brave, Be Free, Be You. With strategic advice and instructional &“authenticity actions&” informed by Sparrow&’s extensive media experience, you&’ll learn how to identify the unique parts of your perspective, opinion, and experience, and how to step into your individual power that will transform your professional and personal life. Whether you&’re looking to move forward in your career or make better connections in your life, Fearless Authenticity is an honest conversation about success and personal power—an easy-to-follow guide whenever there&’s a team to lead, a sale to close, a speech to deliver. This book is for anyone who wants to stand out, speak up, and be heard.
Fearless Finances: A Timeless Guide to Building Wealth
by Cassandra CummingsBUILD GENERATIONAL WEALTH WITH CLEAR AND ACTIONABLE INVESTMENT STRATEGIESCassandra Cummings, leading financial expert, and founder of The Stocks & Stilettos Society, shows women how to crush their financial goals, overcome their fears, and grow their wealth through the power of investing.Historically, women of color have been shut out of the wealth-building game. Cassandra Cummings has made it her mission to change that by creating a vibrant and successful online community of more than 100,000 women investors. In her new book, Cassandra brings the powerful lessons of their achievements to you.In this book, Cassandra will teach you how to:Conquer longstanding fears around moneyDevelop a firm foundation for you and your familyInvest in the stock market for wealth creation and legacy buildingPrepare for a lifelong winning financial seasonFearless Finances walks you through the keys to building your success squad of trusted experts, as well as women who kicked fear out of the way to achieve their financial dreams. Now, so can you.
Fearless Golf: Conquering the Mental Game
by Mike Stachura Gio ValianteA detailed plan for conquering the FEAR that sabotages swings and ruins psyches, from the pioneering psychologist whose techniques have benefited Davis Love III, Justin Leonard, and numerous other world-class golfers. As Jack Nicklaus once observed, fear is the golfer's greatest enemy, inspiring Tiger Woods to "refuse" to give in to this debilitating emotion. It can turn professionals into jelly and dominate the games of most amateurs. It alters swing paths, causes "tap-in" putts to go awry, and transforms a golfer from a brilliant shot-maker on the practice range into an incompetent hack on the course. Most golfers understand this, but do not have the tools to overcome it. That's where Dr. Gio Valiante comes in. A pioneering sports psychologist, Valiante has studied the sources of an athlete's fear, investigated the physiological and neurological impact of fear on performance, and, most important of all, developed a groundbreaking program for conquering it. With Valiante's help and by applying Fearless Golf, Justin Leonard went from three consecutive missed cuts to three consecutive top tens, and Chad Campbell recently moved from 98th in the world to 7th. Davis Love III went from zero wins in 2002 to four wins in 2003, and Chris DiMarco made the 2004 Ryder Cup Team. Emphasizing the need to replace a fixation-on-results with a commitment to mastery of one's body and one's mind, Valiante's approach will not only help golfers reach their true potential, it will make playing every round fun again. Through concrete confidence and mastery drills, he presents specific ways readers can break free of fear's grasp and perform at their best--even under the most extreme pressure. With detailed quotes and anecdotes given exclusively to Dr. Valiante from the best players in the game--including Jack Nicklaus, Ernie Els, and other tour professionals,Fearless Golfis the ultimate guide to the mental game, the hottest topic in golf today.
Fearless Interviewing: How to Win the Job by Communicating with Confidence
by Marky SteinA proactive new strategy for removing anxiety, and regaining control, throughout the job interview process "Marky Stein's book is wonderful. She gives us a thorough analysis of the whole interviewing process. Fearless Interviewing is clear, kind, and full of good advice. . . . Highly recommended. "--Barbara Sher, author of Live the Life That You Love. A job interview is one of life's most stressful and challenging experiences. Fearless Interviewing presents a strategic approach to interviewing, one that tips the scales back in favor of the job applicant. It provides useful advice on all aspects of the interviewing process, including how to: * Dazzle interviewers in the first 20 seconds * Handle tough interview questions with ease * Command a salary up to 20 percent higher.
Fearless Leadership: Overcoming Reticence, Procrastination, and the Voices of Doubt Inside Your Head
by Alan WeissThe intent of this book -- the author's goal for you — is to understand the baseless underpinnings of almost all our fears. You read that correctly -- almost all our fears -- and therefore to discard them. The author has expertly coached leaders and managers in the discovery of, examination of, elimination of, and sustained freedom from fears. We all know people who are charming and articulate, but flounder on a stage addressing colleagues; musicians who master intricate scores but can’t play the basics when asked to solo; athletes who "choke"; business people who are strong until it comes time to ask for the business; people who consistently feel like "imposters." We are far better at dealing with external, tangible fears than our own imagined ones. We purchase insurance, watch the safety demonstrations, know how to use the Heimlich Maneuver. But those are responses to rare and often never-occurring emergencies. Our mythical and monstrous fears are daily dark clouds, masking our talents no less than depression or guilt. It’s time to realize there is no monster under the bed, never has been, and never will be without having to check nightly and without needing a weapon on the night table. Picture yourself freed of restraints that you could never properly articulate and were loath to discuss, but which you carried on your shoulders constantly, a dead weight, nonetheless. Essentially, this book is for entrepreneurs, business owners, and those who seek a better position for themselves and their talents, but who procrastinate, delay, and hang back. It’s about isolating and overcoming the internal fears that we generate every day like a geyser, triggered by time, events, or shifts in the environment. We are our own worst enemies and we ignore the practical remedies to escape fear because we use our energies instead on blaming everyone else.