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How to Change Someone You Love: Four Steps to Help You Help Them
by Brad LammA powerful, ground-breaking book that shows you, in concrete steps, how to stop a loved one from engaging in self destructive behavior.Stop your husband from drinking himself to death. Don't let your brother lose it all to gambling. Get your kid off drugs. Motivate your best friend to lose weight. Make your spendthrift brother-in-law stop maxing out his credit cards. Get your sister out of an abusive relationship. Erase anger in your co-worker. If you're tired of watching your spouse, child, relative, or best friend go downhill, dragging you with them, How to Change Someone You Love will help you turn their lives around. You don't have to endure behavior that is unhealthy, abusive, possibly deadly, and that threatens to unravel relationships. You can change it. Many books will tell you that you can't change anyone. They advise you not to even try. The problem is, they ignore the tremendous power you actually have to change people. If most books about change are written for the addict or troubled person, How to ChangeSomeone You Love reaches out to the loved ones who know that change is critical and urgent. How to Change Someone You Loveis not just a self-help book; this is a help-you-act book. "Brad Lamm's step-by-step approach empowers families and friends to change their loved ones through compassionate, caring and continuing support."-- Dr. Mehmet Oz
How to Change Your Life in 7 Steps
by John BirdIn this highly-accessible self-help book Big Issue founder John Bird explains his seven simple rules that could help you change your life. Whether you want to get a new job, quit smoking, stop drinking or go back to college, How to Change Your Life in 7 Steps explains how you can take what you've been given and turn it into something you'll be proud of, rather than spend your life wishing for everything you haven't got.For 99% of us life doesn't come knocking on the door; you have to go out and get it. But the trouble with aiming for the stars is that you're likely to end up in the gutter. John Bird has learnt through his work with the homeless that if you start by putting just 3% of your energy towards your final goal rather than a gutter-hitting 99% you will eventually make the changes you are looking for. John's six other rules are as straightforward as this first one, 'Start With 3%'. He writes with passion about the dangers of thinking like a victim and of not telling the truth; he shares with us the importance of thinking for yourself and never putting others down, and he encourages us not to define our successes by the failures of others and to recognise our own achievements.Written in his unique no-nonsense style this is a book about 'cutting through the bullshit and making the most of what you have.'
How to Change Your Thinking About Anger: Hazelden Quick Guides
by AnonymousApply practical strategies from the latest expert research to change the way you think and react to feelings of anger.Apply practical strategies from the latest expert research to change the way you think and react to feelings of anger.Do you (or does someone you know) have a problem with anger? Perhaps you've been told you do, but you're skeptical. Anger can be a healthy emotion, but when we direct it outwards towards others, or fail to use it constructively, we cause lasting damage to ourselves and loved ones.Using the research of experts in the field of emotional health, this book outlines a basic understanding of anger and offers healthy ways to process and change our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to better deal with it. These strategies are based on Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT), a widely used method of examining our own thoughts to challenge and change irrational beliefs.In this book, you willGet past common myths surrounding angerBreak down anger into its basic components and learn how they combine to create healthy or unhealthy expressionLearn and identify the four basic anger stylesDiscover your own anger style, and identify what triggers your angerPractice ways to respond to anger more positively by making conscious choices in your thinking, feeling, and actingKnow how and when to reach out for professional help if necessaryAbout Hazelden Quick GuidesHazelden Quick Guides are short, accessible e-books that draw on the original work and best practices of leading experts to help readers address common addiction recovery and emotional health issues. This first four-book collection applies the proven methods of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) to challenge and change the irrational thoughts and beliefs that contribute to the debilitating effects of shame, anger, depression, and anxiety.
How to Change Your Thinking About Anxiety: Hazelden Quick Guides
by AnonymousApply practical strategies from the latest expert research to change the way you think and react to feelings of anxiety.Apply practical strategies from the latest expert research to change the way you think and react to feelings of anxiety.Do you (or does someone you know) have problems with anxiety? Perhaps you're suffering in silence, or perhaps it's affecting your daily life and relationships. Anxiety is a common emotion, and is healthy at times. But when it keeps us from activities and people we once enjoyed, it's a disruptive and terrifying feeling.Using the research of experts in the field of emotional health, this book outlines a basic understanding of anxiety and offers healthy ways to process and change our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to better deal with it. These strategies are based on Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT), a widely used method of examining our own thoughts to challenge and change irrational beliefs.In this book, you willDiscover the "anatomy" of anxiety and break it down into its basic elementsLearn the different forms of anxiety so you can better care for your ownUncover your own sources of anxiety and learn how certain coping strategies often make it worseDiscover how you experience anxiety through your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviorsKnow how and when to reach out for professional help, if necessaryReclaim your life from anxiety by making conscious choices in your thinking, feeling, and acting.About Hazelden Quick GuidesHazelden Quick Guides are short, accessible e-books that draw on the original work and best practices of leading experts to help readers address common addiction recovery and emotional health issues. This first four-book collection applies the proven methods of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) to challenge and change the irrational thoughts and beliefs that contribute to the debilitating effects of shame, anger, depression, and anxiety.
How to Change Your Thinking About Depression: Hazelden Quick Guides
by AnonymousApply practical strategies from the latest expert research to change the way you think and react to feelings of depression.Apply practical strategies from the latest expert research to change the way you think and react to feelings of depression.Do you (or does someone you know) have problems with depression? Have you been told that you might be depressed? We all have bad days and feel down from time to time. It's common, and even healthy at times. But when these feelings linger to the point of keeping us from our responsibilities and affecting our relationships, we can feel helpless.Using the research of experts in the field of emotional health, this book outlines a basic understanding of depression and offers healthy ways to process and change our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to better deal with it. These strategies are based on Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT), a widely used method of examining our own thoughts to challenge and change irrational beliefs.In this book, you willDiscover the "anatomy" of depression and break it down into its basic elementsLearn the different forms of depression so you can better care for your ownUncover your own sources of depression and learn how certain coping strategies are often both a symptom and a cause of depressionDiscover how you experience depression through your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviorsKnow how and when to reach out for professional help, if necessaryReclaim your life from depression by making conscious choices in your thinking, feeling, and actingAbout Hazelden Quick GuidesHazelden Quick Guides are short, accessible e-books that draw on the original work and best practices of leading experts to help readers address common addiction recovery and emotional health issues. This first four-book collection applies the proven methods of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) to challenge and change the irrational thoughts and beliefs that contribute to the debilitating effects of shame, anger, depression, and anxiety.
How to Change Your Thinking About Shame: Hazelden Quick Guides
by AnonymousApply practical strategies from the latest expert research to change the way you think and react to feelings of shame.Apply practical strategies from the latest expert research to change the way you think and react to feelings of shame.Do you (or does someone you know) have problems with shame? Perhaps you're suffering in silence because of an experience or feeling you have about yourself, or perhaps it’s affecting your daily life and relationships. Shame is a common emotion, and is healthy at times, but when it keeps us from activities and people we once enjoyed, it's a powerfully damaging and painful feeling.Using the research of experts in the field of emotional health, this book outlines a basic understanding of shame and offers healthy ways to process and change our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to better deal with it. These strategies are based on Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT), a widely used method of examining our own thoughts to challenge and change irrational beliefs.In this book, you willUnderstand the essence of shame and the difference between shame, guilt, humiliation, and embarrassment.Discover the anatomy of shame and break it into its basic elementsUncover your own sources of shame and how culture, childhood, and current relationships can all reinforce itDiscover how you experience shame through your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviorsReclaim your life from shame by making conscious choices in your thinking, feeling, and acting.About Hazelden Quick GuidesHazelden Quick Guides are short, accessible e-books that draw on the original work and best practices of leading experts to help readers address common addiction recovery and emotional health issues. This first four-book collection applies the proven methods of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) to challenge and change the irrational thoughts and beliefs that contribute to the debilitating effects of shame, anger, depression, and anxiety.
How to Change: The Science of Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be
by Katy MilkmanAward-winning Wharton Professor and Choiceology podcast host Katy Milkman has devoted her career to the study of behavior change. In this ground-breaking book, Milkman reveals a proven path that can take you from where you are to where you want to be, with a foreword from psychologist Angela Duckworth, the best-selling author of Grit.Set audacious goals. Foster good habits. Create social support. You've surely heard this advice before. If you've ever tried to change or encourage it -- to boost exercise or healthy eating, to prevent missed deadlines or kick-start savings -- then you know there are thousands of apps, books, and YouTube videos promising to help and offering sound guidance. And yet, you're still not where you want to be.This trailblazing book from award-winning behavioral scientist and Wharton Professor Katy Milkman explains why. In a career devoted to uncovering what helps people change, Milkman has discovered a crucial thing many of us get wrong: our strategy. Change, she's learned, comes most readily when you understand what's standing between you and success and tailor your solution to that roadblock. If you want to work out more but find exercise difficult and boring, downloading a goal-setting app probably won't help. But what if, instead, you transformed your workouts so they became a source of pleasure instead of a chore? Turning an uphill battle into a downhill one is the key to success.Drawing on Milkman's original research and the work of her dozens of world-renowned scientific collaborators, How to Change shares an innovative new approach that will help you change or encourage change in others. Through case studies, engaging stories, and examples from cutting-edge research, this book illustrates how to identify and overcome the barriers that regularly stand in the way of change. How to Change will teach you: • Why timing can be everything when it comes to making a change • How to turn temptation and inertia into assets that can help you conquer your goals • That giving advice, even if it's about something you're struggling with, can help you achieve moreWhether you're a manager, coach, or teacher aiming to help others change for the better or are struggling to kick-start change yourself, How to Change offers an invaluable, science-based blueprint for achieving your goals, once and for all.
How to Chase Change: 30 Days to Master Your Mindset
by Alexis Fernandez-PreiksaThe host of the hit podcast Do You F*cking Mind? and bestselling author of The Neuroscience of Self-Love offers you the ultimate guide to shifting your mindset to create the change you envision for your life in an actionable, step-by-step 30-day program. If you want to change your life, but you don&’t know where to start, know that you already possess your most powerful tool: your mind. How to Chase Change is the ultimate guide to utilising your mindset to become your best self. This 30-day program covers everything from turning aspirational goals into action, increasing self-confidence and overcoming heartbreak, to eliminating negative self-talk and committing to small changes that will help you achieve big results. In How to Chase Change, neuroscientist and beloved podcast host Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa combines fascinating tidbits of research on the human brain, poignant inspirational moments, and insight from her own experiences to give you everything you need to create lasting, positive change. Each module is designed around timeless wisdom you can return to again and again as you work through different challenges and transitions.How to Chase Change is the easy, accessible guide to the life you've always wanted.
How to Choose a Partner
by Susan QuilliamWe don’t have all the answers—but we can help you choose a partner.Choosing a romantic partner is one of contemporary life’s biggest adventures. But other aspects of modern living—being globally more mobile, a fall in religious belief, social liberalization, and more job opportunities (but longer working hours)—mean relationships have rarely been so challenging, and so important.In How to Choose a Partner, Susan Quilliam guides us through the process of finding the right partner for us as individuals. The real challenge is that we grow. Drawing upon rich cultural material, psychology, and her background in relationship therapy, Susan presents partner choice as a journey toward self-development, driving us to learn more about ourselves, about other people, and about life and the way we want to live.
How to Choose the Best Preschool for Your Child: The Ultimate Guide to Finding, Getting Into, and Preparing for Nursery School
by Jenifer WanaThe most useful tool out there for families about to embark on the search for a preschool!-Helen Cohen, director, Frances Jacobson Early Childhood Center, Boston. A must-have for parents of future preschoolers. Starting preschool is one of the biggest milestones in a child's life. With this comprehensive, step-by-step guide, you won't have to navigate the preschool process alone. Whether the nursery schools nearby enroll every child, or they're so competitive that they only accept a few applicants, this book has everything you need to know to choose and get into the right preschool for your child.
How to Click: How to Date and Find Love With Confidence
by Trevor SilvesterTrevor Silvester is a qualified hypnotherapist and couples coach of over twenty years experience. In How to Click he teaches you how to build on your confidence, relax, and be yourself on dates. By building on simple steps, you will learn how to be more confident, and read the non-verbal signs to find love. Confidence You spend the evening hoping the other person likes you, so you try to be the person you think they'll like. Confidence is key. What stops you having it, what you can do to increase yours and how you can turn up to the date relaxed enough to let the other person really get to know you. How's it going? We often get the future we expect. If you imagine the date will go wrong your body will try to help you by kicking into the protection response. Imagine if you behaved during the evening in a way that gave the date the best chance of being successful. Think it how you want it. Who do you become? We like to think that people can take us how they find us, but research shows that we become different versions of ourselves according to the situation we are in. Dating often triggers us into a need to project the best version of us. Being yourself is a skill - Trevor gives you tips on how to turn up to the date as you. What's on their mind? The chances are your date is worrying about the same thing you are - what the other person thinks of you. Holding on to this idea helps to change the focus from you to them - with the result that you feel more connected. People like people who are like them. When people are getting on there are certain non-verbal signals that show this. By learning what they are and using them deliberately you can help your date relax, and create a stronger connection on a date than you ever thought possible.
How to Click: How to Date and Find Love with Confidence
by Trevor SilvesterContains free audio downloadsTrevor Silvester is a Harley Street hypnotherapist and couples coach of over twenty years experience. In How to Click he teaches you how to build on your confidence, relax, and be yourself on dates. By building on simple steps, you will learn how to be more confident, and read the non-verbal signs to find love. Going on a date? Hijacked by a nervous version of yourself? Trevor Silvester shows you how to avoid pitfalls like these and reveals exercised to help you maximise the 'click' factor. With his quick and easy guide to recognising psychological types, Trevor shows you how to become a dating Jedi!The book also contains exclusive free audio downloads to help you go through the door to meet your date brimming with confidence and likeability.
How to Climb Everest (Little Ways to Live a Big Life #2)
by Kami Rita SherpaWhat does it take to climb the world's highest mountain? This delightful short book reveals everything you need to know about climbing Mount Everest - and who better to tell you than Kami Rita Sherpa, a Nepali guide who holds the record for most ascents to the summit of this extraordinary mountain. In May 2019 he scaled the mountain for the 24th time. From practical considerations to mental preparation, Kami Rita Sherpa leans on years of experience to disclose his secrets. He tells you what to pack, how to train, how to embrace pressure, how to persevere when exhaustion threatens to take over you, how to deal with panic, how to know when to stop and how to cope with defeat. Drawing on observations he's made from watching people fall apart, he delves into the human psyche to reveal what it takes to climb Earth's highest mountain.Along the way, he offers moments of spiritual wisdom, and explains why sherpas always pay homage to the mountain deity through the Purja ceremony. You will find out how to listen to what the mountains are saying, and how to appreciate the silence in this age of noise.
How to Come out of your Comfort Zone
by Windy DrydenWe all love comfort - but, psychologically, it can be a real trap, holding you back and keeping you stuck in dead-end situations. Using the principles of Rational Emotive Therapy, this book helps people deal with discomfort in life, with advice on how to get things done, achieve goals and overcome inertia. The book covers the problems of those who take a masochistic approach to life's frustrations, and those who use "quick fixes" such as alcohol and drugs. It discusses how to overcome emotional problems which can result when things don't go to plan, such as anger, depression and self-pity. Topics include: The many faces of the comfort trap dealing with urges and feelings of deprivation tolerating unpleasant feelings dealing with impatience and boredom overcoming procrastination developing persistence dealing with the discomfort of change.
How to Come out of your Comfort Zone
by Windy DrydenWe all love comfort - but, psychologically, it can be a real trap, holding you back and keeping you stuck in dead-end situations. Using the principles of Rational Emotive Therapy, this book helps people deal with discomfort in life, with advice on how to get things done, achieve goals and overcome inertia. The book covers the problems of those who take a masochistic approach to life's frustrations, and those who use "quick fixes" such as alcohol and drugs. It discusses how to overcome emotional problems which can result when things don't go to plan, such as anger, depression and self-pity. Topics include: The many faces of the comfort trap dealing with urges and feelings of deprivation tolerating unpleasant feelings dealing with impatience and boredom overcoming procrastination developing persistence dealing with the discomfort of change.
How to Comfort Those in Pain
by Frederic TateI have several reasons for writing a book on death and dying. Over the years I have continuously observed well-meaning people say really insensitive things. I have been guilty of it myself. People are not often intentionally cruel when someone has died. It is just that we are bit taught what to say and the painful emotions often get in the way. If you view death as a failure, it makes it even more difficult. I believe that I am qualified to write this book not so much because of my education as a psychotherapist and that I have a doctorate, but from sitting and holding the hands of people as they die. I have worked with children and adults, people with terminal and life-threatening illnesses, whose who were clinically dead and revived, and as volunteer for hospice. Most importantly, I have buried people I love, friends and family. My hope is that the reader will be better prepared to talk to those who are dying and the family and with friends left with broken hearts. I believe that I am able to make the topics of grieving (emotions) and mourning (the public expression of emotions) a bit more palatable for the average individual. If we can be less fearful in talking about death, we are likely to be more compassionate. My best teachers have been people who were dying. It is through them that I have learned to live. If this book results in making dying a bit easier for just one person, I will consider it success. - Dr. Frederic B. Tate
How to Communicate Successfully: The Halvorson Collection (2 Books)
by Heidi Grant HalvorsonCommunication in the workplace is more important than ever. This Harvard Business Review digital collection presents the work of social psychologist and bestselling author Heidi Grant Halvorson. In No One Understands You and What to Do About It, Halvorson explains why we're often misunderstood and how we can fix that. Most of us assume that other people see us as we see ourselves, and that they see us as we truly are. But neither is true. Our everyday interactions are colored by subtle biases that distort how others see us-and also shape our perceptions of them. You can learn to clarify the message you're sending once you understand the lenses that shape perception-trust, power, and ego-and how these lenses affect your interactions. In the short, powerful Nine Things Successful People Do Differently, the strategies and goals of the world's most successful people are on display-backed by research that shows exactly what has the biggest impact on performance. Here's a hint: accomplished people reach their goals because of what they do, not just who they are.
How to Connect (Mindfulness Essentials #8)
by Thich Nhat HanhWe can restore our inherent connection to nature, each other, our ancestors, and ourselves, and remember our fundamental gift of belonging. The eighth book in the bestselling Mindfulness Essentials series, a back-to-basics collection from world-renowned Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh that introduces everyone to the essentials of mindfulness practice. "We are here to awaken from the illusion of our separateness."—Thich Nhat HanhWith our world experiencing the deep effects of loneliness, environmental detachment, and digital overload, this pocket-sized How To book reminds us of our crucial need to connect to ourselves, our ancestors, and our planet. Written with characteristic simplicity and kindness, these wise meditations teach us how to remember, at any time, our fundamental gift of belonging. Illustrated with playful sumi-ink drawings by California artist Jason DeAntonis.
How to Contact your Angels
by Karen PaolinoAngels are everywhere and this perfect guide will show you how to invite them into your life. Whether you're struggling to find a parking space or require the protection of a loved one - these heavenly messengers are on hand to help. Angel Therapist and Clairvoyant Karen Paolino teaches you the many ways to communicate with these divine beings, from meditation to affirmations to angel card readings. You will learn how to prepare yourself to interact with the angels and how to keep them as part of your everyday life. "How to Contact Your Angels" is also your complete source of information on the angelic structure, their individual roles as messengers as well as heartwarming real-life examples of angel miracles.
How to Control Your Anger: Before it Controls You
by Raymond Chip Tafrate Albert Ellis PhDAnger is universal. Unchecked, it can cause lasting damage in our lives: wrecked relationships, lost jobs, even serious disease. Yet in these increasingly stressful times, all of us have acted in anger - and often wished we hadn't. Is there a way that really works to solve problems and assert ourselves without being angry? The answer is a resounding yes, if you follow the breakthrough steps of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). This proven approach, developed by world renowned psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis, has withstood the test of time, helping countless people deal effectively with emotional problems. Using easy-to-master instructions and exercises, this classic book will show you how to apply REBT techniques to understand the roots and nature of your anger, and take control of and reduce angry reactions. Here you will discover: *The rational and irrational aspects of anger*Special insights into your self-angering beliefs*How to think, feel, and act your way out of anger*How to relax*How to accept yourself with your anger. . .and much more that will help you challenge and eliminate the anger that can frustrate success and happiness at home, at work, anywhere.
How to Control Your Anxiety: Before it Controls You
by Albert Ellis PhDFrom social anxiety to phobias to post-traumatic stress disorder, sources of anxiety in daily life are numerous, and can have a powerful impact on your future. By following the rules of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), created by world renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, you can stop anxiety in its tracks if you will admit this important fact: Things and people do not make you anxious. You do. Your unrealistic expectations produce your needless anxiety. Yet not all anxiety is needless...Healthy anxiety can ward off dangers and make you aware of negative things that you can change. Unhealthy anxiety inhibits you from enjoying everyday activities and relationships, causes you to perform poorly, and blocks your creativity. Using the easy-to-master, proven precepts of REBT, this classic book not only helps you distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anxiety, but teaches you how to:*Understand and dispute the irrational beliefs that make you anxious*Use a variety of exercises, including rational coping self-statements, reframing, problem-solving methods, and Unconditional Self-Acceptance (USA), to control your anxiety*Apply over 200 maxims to control your anxious thinking as well as your bodily reactions to anxiety...and much more, including examples from dozens of cases Dr. Ellis treated successfully. Now you can overcome the crippling effects of anxiety-and increase your prospects for success, pleasure and happiness at home and in the workplace.
How to Cope When Everything's Gone to Sh*t: A Supportive Guide to Overcoming Life's Many Challenges
by Sam CooperPacked with helpful tips and kind words, this book will be your go-to guide to finding calm in a chaotic world. This valuable guide offers coping strategies for a range of anxieties, from work-related stress to concerns about the future of the planet. With the advice inside, you'll start to feel more confident and ready to take on any challenges.
How to Cope When Everything's Gone to Sh*t: A Supportive Guide to Overcoming Life's Many Challenges
by Sam CooperPacked with helpful tips and kind words, this book will be your go-to guide to finding calm in a chaotic world. This valuable guide offers coping strategies for a range of anxieties, from work-related stress to concerns about the future of the planet. With the advice inside, you'll start to feel more confident and ready to take on any challenges.
How to Cope When Your Child Can't: Comfort, Help and Hope for Parents
by Roz Shafran Ursula Saunders Alice WelhamParenting and caring for a child who is struggling to cope can be painful and stressful, and can make it very hard to enjoy life yourself. Feelings of blame, guilt, sorrow, despair, fear and frustration may be swirling around alongside a desperate desire to cure their pain.Although parenting a child who is experiencing difficulties is a common problem, we can feel desperately alone when it is happening to us. When someone we love is struggling - for whatever reason - we may become unhappy too. For countless parents and children there are problems with no easy solutions. However, that's where this book comes in. It aims to help understand for ourselves what we can and cannot do; to help us to accept any distress, worry, anxiety, sadness or loss of control in our situations; to see that we can tolerate these things; and to know that there are ways to move forward.This book is packed with stories from real parents, combined with information from psychological research. It will show you how you can manage to obtain comfort from knowing you are not alone, get help from resources and techniques that really work, and find hope that things can and do change for the better.
How to Cope When Your Child Can't: Comfort, Help and Hope for Parents
by Roz Shafran Ursula Saunders Alice WelhamParenting and caring for a child who is struggling to cope can be painful and stressful, and can make it very hard to enjoy life yourself. Feelings of blame, guilt, sorrow, despair, fear and frustration may be swirling around alongside a desperate desire to cure their pain.Although parenting a child who is experiencing difficulties is a common problem, we can feel desperately alone when it is happening to us. When someone we love is struggling - for whatever reason - we may become unhappy too. For countless parents and children there are problems with no easy solutions. However, that's where this book comes in. It aims to help understand for ourselves what we can and cannot do; to help us to accept any distress, worry, anxiety, sadness or loss of control in our situations; to see that we can tolerate these things; and to know that there are ways to move forward.This book is packed with stories from real parents, combined with information from psychological research. It will show you how you can manage to obtain comfort from knowing you are not alone, get help from resources and techniques that really work, and find hope that things can and do change for the better.